Is Being Gay A Choice?

[brianwspencer]

Originally Posted by GBBob

That is is a great post..But do you think they should have equal rights and benefits as married couples do?

And the problem is that, and I'm speaking from great experience here, but very general experience, that "don't push it on me," means don't hold hands in public, don't kiss your partner on the cheek, don't give me ANY idea at all that you're gay and we'll be great friends!

That's not exactly a welcome mat for gay folks...though lots of conservative heteros like to think it is, until you really flesh out what "don't push it on me," means to them -- nine times out of ten, it's 'please don't make me feel uncomfortable and even realize you're gay....if i have no clue at any point that you're gay, then I support you...otherwise you're pushing it in my face.'

It's a pretty important point to make.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by brianwspencer

And the problem is that, and I'm speaking from great experience here, but very general experience, that "don't push it on me," means don't hold hands in public, don't kiss your partner on the cheek, don't give me ANY idea at all that you're gay and we'll be great friends!

That's not exactly a welcome mat for gay folks...though lots of conservative heteros like to think it is, until you really flesh out what "don't push it on me," means to them -- nine times out of ten, it's 'please don't make me feel uncomfortable and even realize you're gay....if i have no clue at any point that you're gay, then I support you...otherwise you're pushing it in my face.'

It's a pretty important point to make.

that's what gets me, when folks say that. exactly what does that mean? how does one push ones sexual orientation? if i tell a gay person that i'm married, am i pushing my straightness on them? maybe it's similar to someone explaining they aren't racist and mentioning they have a black friend.? my mother in law has a black friend, she's still racist through and through. yet she mentions she has one as a way of saying, no, when i say n_____ i'm not really being racist.