Is Being Gay A Choice?

[Nascar1966]

Originally Posted by 2MinsToPost

Thread of the year material.
If your a guy and wanna have relations with another guy, cool.
If your a woman and wanna have relations with another woman, cool, especially if I can chip in
Who am I, in the big picture, to judge?
Who are any of us, in the big picture, to judge?

I used to be biased, I could not stand the idea of same sex relations until I worked with a gay man who became a great friend of mine. He opened my eyes to his life because I was willing. I was willing to listen and learn. At first I did not want to be seen with him, shame on me, but as time grew on I realized he is no threat, he's not some weirdo. Todd is a great friend to this day and I value his friendship greatly.

I believe you are born gay or straight, its in the making.

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier orientation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a lesbian or gay. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

[GBBob]

Originally Posted by Nascar1966

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier orientation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a lesbian or gay. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

That is is a great post..But do you think they should have equal rights and benefits as married couples do?

[brianwspencer]

Originally Posted by GBBob

That is is a great post..But do you think they should have equal rights and benefits as married couples do?

And the problem is that, and I'm speaking from great experience here, but very general experience, that "don't push it on me," means don't hold hands in public, don't kiss your partner on the cheek, don't give me ANY idea at all that you're gay and we'll be great friends!

That's not exactly a welcome mat for gay folks...though lots of conservative heteros like to think it is, until you really flesh out what "don't push it on me," means to them -- nine times out of ten, it's 'please don't make me feel uncomfortable and even realize you're gay....if i have no clue at any point that you're gay, then I support you...otherwise you're pushing it in my face.'

It's a pretty important point to make.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by brianwspencer

And the problem is that, and I'm speaking from great experience here, but very general experience, that "don't push it on me," means don't hold hands in public, don't kiss your partner on the cheek, don't give me ANY idea at all that you're gay and we'll be great friends!

That's not exactly a welcome mat for gay folks...though lots of conservative heteros like to think it is, until you really flesh out what "don't push it on me," means to them -- nine times out of ten, it's 'please don't make me feel uncomfortable and even realize you're gay....if i have no clue at any point that you're gay, then I support you...otherwise you're pushing it in my face.'

It's a pretty important point to make.

that's what gets me, when folks say that. exactly what does that mean? how does one push ones sexual orientation? if i tell a gay person that i'm married, am i pushing my straightness on them? maybe it's similar to someone explaining they aren't racist and mentioning they have a black friend.? my mother in law has a black friend, she's still racist through and through. yet she mentions she has one as a way of saying, no, when i say n_____ i'm not really being racist.

[Danzig]

Originally Posted by GBBob

That is is a great post..But do you think they should have equal rights and benefits as married couples do?

i know you asked nascar, but i'll answer. emphatically, yes! it's odd-we proclaim ourselves as the land of the free, yet other countries are ahead of us in this regard. whether states wish to recognize is one thing, i think the feds need to lead the way here. after all, it's our constitution that says all are created equal...now, arkansas' state constitution on the other hand......ugh.

[AeWingnut]

Polygamist

[hi_im_god]

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier filthy deviation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a pervert. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

this just seems more honest.

[Antitrust32]

Originally Posted by hi_im_god

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier filthy deviation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a pervert. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

this just seems more honest.

thats just not fair.

[ateamstupid]

I always love the "I'm fine with it, but just don't push it on me" qualified acceptance sentiment.

Chances are if chicks aren't beating your door down, gay guys think you're ugly too.

And what do you care if a gay guy hits on you? Tell him you're not interested and walk away. How is that any different from a chick you think is ugly hitting on you?

[dalakhani]

Originally Posted by Nascar1966

It all boils down to treating a person with dignity and respect no matter what thier orientation is as long as they also treat you with dignity and respect. I have no problems with a person who is a lesbian or gay. Ive met people like that before. Dont push it on me and we will get along just fine.

Ive never seen a trailer park with a rainbow flag at the entrance.

Im sure there are gay guys all over the world that are just lining up to push their "gayness" on you. By the way, Timmi is straight.

[2Hot4TV]

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