Honest Opinion - This is a Serious Question

[dalakhani]

Originally Posted by 2MinsToPost

I have lost one of my best friends to suicide. He shot himself in the head with a pistol in front of his child and other friends during a get together. He shot himself in the head wth a pistol with a bottle of whiskey next to him.

I have known this man since Junior High School. I was a bald kid who was tring to fit in and he took me "under his wing" if you will. Thru High School I was a rebel and so was he, but I was the lone man out cause when you are 16, 17, 18 and bald as an eagle life can be made hard by other students at that age.

When graduation came, I went to college and he took up a life of crime. We lost touch up until a couple years ago when I stumbled into a bar he was at. He was facing a prison sentence for drugs. We rekindled old memories and I went my way and he did his.

He served 3 years in the joint for his crimes, got out, and met a nice lady. Had a child and was holding down a great paying job. Then he did this.

I have NEVER, EVER, held respect for people who take their own life. But, at this time, I am torn.

I want to pay my respects to this friend of mine - but on the other hand that is against what I believe - Suicide to me is the most selfish thing a man or woman can do, especially when they have a child.

What do you recommend?

My condolences.

As far as what he did, it was a terrible thing. But do you, i or anyone else have any room to judge?

A guy only dies once. Celebrate your friendship and pay your respects. Show your support to the family. He was a troubled man obviously but he also obviously had some wonderful qualities.

No regrets if you go.

[paisjpq]

suicide is the last desperate act of a person without hope...is it selfish? yes absolutely...does the person contemplating suicide recognize this? no, otherwise they wouldn't do it...
If you have never struggled with true depression and the accompanying thoughts then it is impossible to understand his state of mind...
Forgive your friend, celebrate that part of his life that you shared and help his family to do the same.