[Grits]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

There are plenty of men who own motorcycles that ride them to work (I didn't mean riding around all day literally.) And while I DO expect a man to have a job, I don't expect a man to take care of me...

That's cleared up and that's good.

In life, we, as women, should never expect anyone to take care of us, but we do. Its part of why we enter into relationships. We take care of them, and they in return, readily and willingly, do the same for us. And it is because we WANT to, they WANT to.

Actually that is probably what everyone, or most, hope for. Finding that particular individual.

I have a full time job and I've managed to take care of myself just fine. I'd love to make more money, but I take pride in my independence and would never be ok with being a gold digger.

And what you describe, this is success. Few women though, readily admit, "I'm a gold digger". Bad form and all that.

I also was unaware that expecting honesty in a relationship with a non-binge drinking man who has a brain (and who likes horses ) was considered a lot of requirements. Believe me, I'm not picky, but I've been in a few lousy relationships (including a marriage) that have helped me to understand what I DO need in a relationship.

You do have a lot of requirements, sound ones. But weighing them is necessary. Choose what is most important. And bad relationships teach us a lot, hopefully. Unless though, we are stubborn and prone to continue in making the wrong choices. In such cases, we cause ourselves pain.