sorry scavs but I get the opposite vibe...girls are not retarded when it comes to figuring out who's interested...it sounds like she was trying to give you an out...but what's to stop a guy from trying, after all she didn't say no...

Yikes! Is it warm in here....or is it just me??;)

If she is "booked solid" for the next few.... I would say she's not interested. That's a girls way of keeping you away and hoping you forget about her. Of course, her age and intelligence usually tells you whether or not she's playing games. Youngins' like game playing. Mature adults lay it out on the table, are honest and don't "beat around the bush". Unless you like game playing, you should forget about this one and move on to the next one that appreciates the attention you give her.

Scav,

There is an entire chapter of the Sent2Stud book titled, "Wine, Women and Wagering," devoted to the topic of what to say when asked a stumper question.

The response is this,

"I was hoping you'd ask me something like that."

You can bet your absolute last dime she will respond, "Why?"

Your response is this,

"I'll tell you later."

This has never failed.

next time you call the professional (me) about this matter...just make sure I am not at the OTB, so I can listen more intently.:D

Curt has listened to Bruce. Gracious. Love that stuff.

damn it that would been good...the double flirtion method...

I should mention this also
 

I mentioned going to lunch Wednesday on Monday to her...Monday and Tuesday was nice business casual, today she BROUGHT IT, some makeup and skirt with some boots, it was real serious, which is why I think it is flirting and it might go somewhere

I disagree, DaHoss.

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I think you guys THINK you don't love the game, but in fact you LOVE the game, because you all love competition. That's why sports is a multi-billion dollar industry-- men love competition. So we play hard to get so you can keep competing and when you finally hook us, you feel like you won something good. (You know, like how you'll spend oodles of money to win us a stupid stuffed animal at carnivals-- one that you'd never actually just go buy at a toy store-- it's all about the winning it.) If a girl came right out and said, "Sure; you're great; I'm happy to go out with you" then you'd start thinking, "Hmm... that was too easy. Where's the fun in that? What's wrong with her?"

Which is why we girls are most likely to meet a guy when we've decided we're through with men-- then we're REALLY not interested and we must give off some kind of "Really, I'm not interested" pheromone that is just like catnip to guys (guynip?). In that moment, we go from being a stuffed animal for sale at ToysRUs to a stuffed animal hanging up in a carnival booth and if you can just get three baskets... :)

That said, Scav, if you asked her to do something, and she said she was booked up the next few weekends and didn't give you specifics as to what she was doing, she's probably not interested. Or she's really bad at playing the game, in which case she's not worth your trouble. But hey, you could always ask her out for a weeknight and if she says no, you've got your answer. You're no worse off than if you didn't ask. And then you move on and can focus your energy on someone new. And later when she regrets it, you can smile sympathetically and pat her on the head and go home to your girlfriend. ;)

And if she's not interested and is using you for free lunches, she's a complete a**hole and gives all of us women a bad name. I HATE women who do that.

Then for the love of Pete, ask her to dinner. If she says no, or she's busy or whatever, then you'll know. If she is genuinely busy on the weeknight you suggest, but is interested, she'll probably say, "But I am free on such-and-such night."

I know, easy for the female to say since we're not the ones who have to ask and get rejected. And may I say, kudos to all of you guys for being brave enough to do the asking! If it were left up to people like me, the human race would die out before I got up the nerve...

Same here! I need the guy to pursue me... I'm too damn shy to make the first move (believe it or not. :o )

Way too many women do that... I never could. I guess she was trying to keep her options open. :eek:

Oooh.... like I said, the kind that gives all of us women a bad name... grrrr.... you're right; very much not cool.

I was incredibly shy around guys in my single days, too, Cajun. And good heavens, if I actually liked one, I was inarticulate to the point of incoherence. Most embarrassing.

Oh it's definately a game she's playing....had she not been interested she would have never asked that question because she wouldn't have been sitting across from you at lunch....so now it's time for you to play the game as well....all it is is the thrill of hunt.....the best hunters are the most patient hunters...so step away for awhile and act like you don't give two s*&^s about her busy schedule....but don't step back too far...bust her chops about being so busy from time to time just to let her know the game is on....if she's interested that schedule will have an opening soon...if this doesn't work, call Kev....just not at the otb....:D

Scav,
I feel for you man. I hate when women ask the obvious... I mean the stuff that goes without saying... It's like, are you really gonna make me respond to this? Are you really gonna rake me over the coals like this? Maybe a cute response shoulda been-

"Actually I email sweet nothings to my boss all the time. I also take him to Olive Garden and massage his feety over happy hour at Chilis. So sorry... you're not that only special co-worker"