An Open Note to Nascar1966

[DerbyCat]

Originally Posted by Nascar1966

Do you think its ok for someone to bring up a person's family member when talking about something?

What I think is right and what people will do to push other people's buttons on here are two different things. If you respond to it, they will keep digging at you because they see you take it personally. There are certain people on DT that post things that they wouldn't say to the other person's face - unless you take the time to get to know the person, the other guy is just a name and an avatar online. That's what this "note" to you has helped me with - your posts frustrated me and I lashed out at you because I just saw a one dimensional side of you, and unfortunately the dimension that I saw was that of an uneducated, right-wing, narrow minded bigot. I didn't like that all I saw and reacted to was something so negative - I don't think anyone on this site is a completely idiotic sociopath who wants to do nothing but f*ck with people (there are a few here that are borderline, but you're not one of them).

The only way we all can have a civilized discourse and discussion on politics and society is if we are able to articulate our opinion, back it up with facts and keep an open mind to the other persons viewpoint. As soon as we resort to attacking and insults, we've lost the argument. When you respond to insults, you empower the person who insulted you. The only way to get respect on this board is to show respect. If you give respect and get only insults back, then you either need to put that person on ignore or leave the board - it's a losing battle to try to keep fighting a dumb*ss, all it does is drive you crazy and the dumb*ss is so dumb, he doesn't care.