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Originally Posted by brianwspencer
Well homosexuals or heterosexual couples with a sterile husband are in a bit of a pickle then as it seems you're advocating that homosexuals and heterosexual couples who are both not able to reproduce on their own should not have children -- and if they do (by whatever means) they will never truly be the parents because someone else will always be responsible for their kids on a biological basis.
Obviously my money comment is on another plane from the concept of a child, but the idea is the same. Someone says they want/need something from you for one reason (whether it be so they can have a child to love with their partner, or to save their house) and then turn around later and change their mind and try to make you responsible for what they've done with it (making you responsible for the child, or killing the neighbor). The personal responsibility here lies with the mothers, not with the biological father. If you disagree with that, so be it, but it certainly seems to border on denying the blessing of parenthood to homosexual or infertile couples.
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I cannot change biology...it is the natural order of things that it takes a man and a woman to conceive a child, I'm not denying gay or barren couples anything..it is the natural order. I know lots of women who have told me they wish a man could carry a child and deliver, I understand their point but I'm not able to change that!
I believe in adoption...I think it is an act of uncommon goodness and sacrifice to adopt and raise a child. There are millions of babies in Africa who have lost their parents, why not adopt one and save them from a life of unspeakable horror? If you adopt a child who has living biological parents however, you should do so with the realization that those parents have a continued responsibility toward that child. Legally you can work out a deal where they have no contact and/or legal responsibilities but the moral link will always exist. When I married my second wife, she had three small children...I raised them and was "dad" but I always accepted the fact that they had a biological father who I could never be...I raised them out of love for them and their mother not because I thought they belonged to me! It didn't make me love them any less...why should a barren or gay couple who adopt be any different? And...as I've said before, children are not a "right" they are a gift, I feel for anyone who wants a child and is unable to have one but that doesn't justify trampling over natural law for someone's perceived "right of ownership"!