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Originally Posted by packerbacker7964

Yeah she wants to move back home to Arkanstone(sorry Danzig) but we left that life behind us. She's in and out of the hospital while we live in Arky. She has heart problems and ask Danzig the summers are brutal there on people with heart problems. She fails to see that hese same people wouldn't even come to see her while she was there in Childern's Hospital much less give a $hit about her. We've lived in Michigan going on 8 years now and only one week's time at Ann Arbor. Lived marreid in Arkanstone for alittle over2 years and too many stays to count. There is more to it than the eye just like most of you said but emotional turns to physical strees after a while. I always ask her what she wants to do and she says nothing but I get blamed for her boring life. I tell her that I wasn't put on this earth to entertain her. If woman could just learn men can't take hints, beating around the bush or guessing. Men say what they want women just keep moving what they want around just to see if we'll come running. Well I'm tired of it.

sounds as tho she isn't happy there, and perhaps the last happy time she remembers is here. and yes, absolutely the summer is brutal here.

you guys need to sit and have a serious discussion, more than one actually. don't get emotional or accusatory, you've got to sort this out. as for happiness, everyone is responsible for their own happiness, no one can make you happy.

counselling may be in order--altho finding the right one can be difficult. we never had to go that route, but i do know that some make a living by choosing a side, and making one spouse out to be the bad guy, while the other laps up being the victim.

do you have children? is so, i think you need to try that much harder to work things out. it doesn't sound irretrievable to me at this point. but if you two keep going this way, it could turn out to be.

and my best advice, don't listen to the bid. far more to marriage than assets. also, things may look bleak NOW. but if you guys end it, that will be even more bleak.

some say you shouldn't get married, as how can you commit to a feeling. it's more than that, you're committing to each other thru thick and thin. you guys both need to focus on that, and on the other person, not yourself. don't get selfish now, this is exactly the wrong time to do that. not saying be a doormat by any means.

good luck packer. the girl you love is there--it's worth fighting for!

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Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Here's my advice.

I got ya advise right here pal.

Go see a marriage counselor,

Yup...they do it best .....saw me a lassince plate what said that.

not Derby Trail.

In all seriousness...

Crink-el

Trashy-poo can

I find it valuable to know there may be no limits if this thread was combined with the pick 6 thread.

Ask the therapist for a RX of these! They help my patients!;)

Seriously though, try to seek out professional help (counseling TOGETHER), not just you alone. You both must be open about any problems that might exist and work out the differences. And you'll see if the differences are too great in staying together or not! Good luck my friend!

ror!

But HellsAngels Club Presidents can't wear hats.

the fact you ask on a message board is not good...if she puts up with you your lucky..she is a bears fan im sure so ..

In 34 years of marriage ( all to the same loving wife) i have learned that we don't change things that we don't like about one another, but you can learn to deal with them so they don't send you ape **** all the time. Life is too short to be unhappy all the time so I guess the only advice is to fix it or change it. Good Luck.

P.S. I prefer to fix whats broke rather than starting all over.

Let's stop treating this obfuscation as real.

If it were real it would be in the esoteric thing.

Really though......enough tincup advise.

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Originally Posted by Cajungator26

SOME men can figure things out on their own... most can't. It used to bother me that I had to ask for something when it was plainly obvious what I needed. If you don't care enough about your wife to read what she's saying to you, then cut her a break. Seriously. As for you being her source of entertainment, you're right... you shouldn't have to be but maybe... just maybe... you'd want to be. Unfortunately, I'm getting the impression that you've already quit and trust me, she knows it.

So now we come to the real question... do you love her? Did you mean what you said to her when you said "I do?" It's not looking like it. I realize it takes two to tango, but if you two aren't a team, your marriage is going to fail. I guarantee it.

I agree here's an example of a good team in action:

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Originally Posted by 2Hot4TV

In 34 years of marriage ( all to the same loving wife) i have learned that we don't change things that we don't like about one another, but you can learn to deal with them so they don't send you ape **** all the time. Life is too short to be unhappy all the time so I guess the only advice is to fix it or change it. Good Luck.

P.S. I prefer to fix whats broke rather than starting all over.

I've become quite a "handyman" in this aspect...but you know what they say, "Jack of all trades, master of none"! :D

No, I've never been tired of being married to answer the question on top. You always need someone to carry the beverages. With 4 kids, you're just tired...period. Really no time to even think about being tired of being married...and the beverage carrier remains essential at all times! And add in the 4 kids, a heckuva lot more hands to carry the beverages! It's all good that married life!

Wow, this thread reads like the DT soap opera. Wonder what happened to "sad story" and her tale of woe.
By the way, if anyone is looking for a really good deal on a slightly used female sheep named Bahbahbaby.....

Never been tired of being married. Been married seven years. Hubby can get on my nerves, but I never want him to not be there.

Packer,
You need to talk to your wife. Maybe she feel like an old shoe to you. Rekindle some romance. But also, maybe it sounds as though she doesn't have a life of any sort where you are living now. She needs to find her "THING" that makes her happy. She is using you for that now. She is maybe having a hard time in her life and you not understanding that is probably hurting her more. As Cajun said, "TALK TO HER"